The Twin Flame bond is the connection of two souls having the same spiritual blueprint. Their connection is deep on all levels emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. They are mirrors of each other.
Twin Flame mirrors reflect not just the positive aspects, but also the deep-seated traumas and insecurities. This mirroring effect can bring to the surface issues that one may not have been consciously aware of.
Is the Twin Flame journey a trauma bond? Can it cause PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) or new traumas to appear?
In this blog you will get clarity on:
- A little bit about Twin Flames
- What is trauma? What are its reason?
- Definition of a ‘trauma bond’?
- What is the difference between a REAL Twin Flame relationship vs a trauma bond?
- Addictions, Twin Flame and trauma?
- Can traumas attract a false Twin Flame?
- How to break free from traumas?
- Do both Twin Flames need to work on traumas?
- How do you know you’re healing your traumas?
- Signs of Twin Flame relationship healing.
- What does a healthy Twin Flame relationship feel like?
A little bit about Twin Flames
Explained in the book: Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover, Twin Flames are manifested from the very same soul essence or the same soul blueprint.
You and your Twin Flame are created by God at the same moment, the most perfect eternal complement.
Both Twin Flames’ souls are created with individual specific codes, qualities, and traits that make them unique. Which means they are not carbon copies of each other.
One is created as the Divine Feminine and the other one is as Divine Masculine. This is the main explanation for your intense attraction and desire for your Twin Flame.
In this way both Twin Flames are already created whole and complete in Divine Perfection (like the yin and yang symbol). You both are already one as you both created the same blueprint.
What is trauma? What are its reasons?
Trauma is when something very upsetting or scary happens, and it makes you feel bad or scared long after it’s over. The incident is over but its effects are still stored within. The person lives in a place of survival mechanism.
Trauma can be caused by a wide range of experiences. Physical or sexual abuse, accidents, war, illness.
It can make you have bad dreams, feel scared a lot, or have trouble feeling happy. Everyone feels it differently. Everyone’s experience of trauma is unique, their ability to cope varies.
Definition of a ‘trauma bond’?
A trauma bond is when someone has a strong emotional connection with a person who treats them badly or hurts them.
It’s like being friends with or loving someone means to you, but you feel like you can’t leave them or stop caring about them. This can happen because the mean person sometimes is nice, which makes it confusing and hard to leave. This kind of bond is not healthy.
Can the Twin Flame dynamic be one of psychological trauma?
What is the difference between a REAL Twin Flame relationship vs a trauma bond?
In a Twin Flame relationship, as one person heals and grows, their relationship positively changes with their Twin Flame. The Twin Flame bond is based on self-love. It pushes the person to come to their healthy and authentic self.
Separation is there to ensure that you learn to have the proper relationship with them. You can’t be in Harmonious Union by being codependent on this person. So any unhealthy pattern is brought during separation.
The Twin Flame bond involves triggers then spiritual growth and self-love. A trauma bond represents narcissistic and toxic patterns and cycles.
One Twin Flame can have trauma and could project this onto the other person. When that happens, physical and emotional boundaries are essential.
If you’re having fights that can never seem to be resolved and that’s what’s painful with your Twin Flame, take a step back and ask yourself why it is happening.
Is it truly trauma?
Is it one or the two Twin Flames having expectations for the relationship and fighting because of it?
Is it possible to heal?
Are boundaries necessary at this time?
Addictions, Twin Flame and trauma?
Addiction is when someone can’t stop doing something, even if it’s bad for them. This could be using drugs, drinking too much alcohol, smoking, or even things like playing video games, eating certain foods, or having unhealthy sexual relationships.
They keep doing it because it helps them forget their problems for a while, but it can cause health issues and relationship problems.
Codependency is also an addiction. It’s a person who gets addicted to the idea of having a certain relationship with someone, and puts them on a pedestal. They experience the same toxicity again and again until they choose to heal.
A lot of Twin Flames are confronted to codependency. It is the core block in a lot of separation and fights. Because your Twin Flame unconsciously knows they are not your source of joy and love.
This energy in your Union, even if it is small, makes them want to go away.
Can traumas attract a false Twin Flame?
Yes, if the person has unresolved traumas. They can attract false Twin Flames.
They attract an energy person which mirrors their own trauma and triggers them.
The beauty of it is: once the person is healed from the trauma, the false Twin Flame falls away from their life, and make space for their true Twin Flame.
How to break free from traumas?
Everything starts with awareness and choices. To get free from trauma is part of a conscious choice to heal.
With time and perseverance, the painful upsets and trauma get less and less, while your attraction and romance continues to grow.
Healing from trauma is a deeply personal and often complex process. It’s important to understand that what works for one person may not work for another, and healing can take time. Here’s a general guide on steps to consider in the journey of healing from trauma:
Acknowledgment and Acceptance
Recognize and accept that you have experienced a traumatic event. Denying or minimizing the impact of trauma can hinder the healing process.
Seek Professional Help
Trauma can manifest in various ways and can be difficult to handle alone. A mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, MAP practitioner can provide guidance and support.
Build a Support Network
Surround yourself with people who support and care for you. This could be friends, family, support groups, or communities. Having a support network can provide emotional comfort and reduce feelings of isolation.
Learn About Trauma
Understanding how trauma affects your mind and body can empower you to take control of your healing process. Educating yourself about the symptoms and reactions to trauma can also help you recognize your triggers.
Develop Healthy Coping Strategies
Replace harmful coping mechanisms with healthy ones. This could include exercise, meditation, journaling, creative activities, or mindfulness practices. But take your time with it, because “all-at-once” action is not sustainable. You can get some help setting these systems in place.
Take Care of Your Body
Physical health can significantly impact mental health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, sufficient sleep can help your body recover.
Set Boundaries
Learn to set boundaries to protect your emotional and mental well-being. It’s okay to say no or take space. And your Twin Flame also needs boundaries! It sets a standard of respect in the relationship.
Be Patient with Yourself
Healing from trauma is not linear and can take time. Be patient with yourself and acknowledge the progress you make, even if it’s small.
Create a Routine
A consistent routine can provide a sense of stability and normalcy, which is crucial in the aftermath of trauma.
Do both Twin Flames need to work on traumas?
If both Twin Flames have experienced traumas, then both can work on it in their own way. But, in order to reunite, only one can do the spiritual healing and that is enough.
Both Twin Flames’ core choices are always the same. If one chooses healing, the other Twin Flame chooses it at the same time.
Maybe you feel called to take on this healing now and love your Union in this way.
However, if you are asking “do Twin Flames get similar injuries?” the answer is no, both can have different injuries. Core choices are made within, Twin Flames do not always mirror physical choices.
Same as Twin Flame psychological trauma, is that inherent? No, Twin Flame psychological trauma is not inherent; it is shaped by the unique life experiences, challenges, and relationships each individual encounters throughout their personal journey.
How does one know traumas are healing?
Recognizing the healing of trauma can be subtle and gradual. It’s often not a sudden change but a series of small shifts and improvements over time. Here are some signs that may indicate your traumas are healing:
- Reduced intensity of the trauma symptoms
- Improved emotional regulation
- Increased sense of safety
- Better relationships
- Positive changes in self-perception
- Greater enjoyment in life
- Improved physical health
- Return to normal routines
- Feeling more hopeful and optimistic
- Ability to talk about the trauma
- More effective coping strategies
- Recognition of personal growth
Sometimes, feedback from therapy or close friends and family can help you recognize the progress you’ve made. If you’re unsure about your healing process, discussing it with a mental health professional can provide clarity and guidance.
Signs that your Twin Flame relationship is healing
- You will start to forgive yourself, your Twin Flame, and others effortlessly. You will start seeing things, and incidents from a different perspective. Triggers may be wisdoms and help you grow or keeping healthy boundaries, etc.
- You will not find yourself codependent on your Twin Flame. You will give time and space to each other whenever needed compassionately. You become comfortable with each other no matter what.
- You will find there is no urge to control each other and even your healing process. Whatever upsets will come up, you will be able to accept them to heal and grow.
- You will be more confident about your relationship with your Twin Flame. You will stop being afraid of the unknown and changes. You know heart changes bring you both closer to yourself, and to each other.
- Your relationship will be healthier every time with healing. You will focus naturally on yourself and your life purpose and feel less obsessed with your Twin Flame.
- Harmony will keep increasing in your relationship.
What does a healthy Twin Flame relationship feel like?
A healthy Twin Flame relationship is based on mutual respect, understanding, and growth.
- Deep emotional connection
- Mutual respect and equality
- Open and honest communication
- Support and encouragement
- Independence and interdependence
- Healthy conflict resolution
- Emotional and spiritual growth
- Unconditional Love
- Trust and security
- Joy and fulfilment
- Navigating challenges together
In the Twin Flame healing journey as a result both Twin Flames experience Harmonious Union with each other.
If that’s the type of relationship you desire, we help Twin Flames who are motivated in our classes. You can heal with other people and fast-track to your Harmonious Union. ↓
Written by Komal Aravind
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