Today we’re going to talk about Twin Flames and eternal sex.
We’ve talked a lot about Twin
Flame sex on this blog before, but what do we mean by an eternity of Twin Flame sex? Does it mean
that when you get with your Twin Flame, you two are just having nonstop sex for
eternity? Not exactly, but also kind of yes.
What we are going to talk about today is how you can
eternally build your sexual connection with your Twin Flame. And that’s why the
first time you break the ice with your Twin Flame and have sex with them, it’s
usually the best sex you’ve ever had. And in Jeff and Shaleia’s experience, it
just keeps getting better. Jeff and Shaleia, as well as their students, discuss
Twin Flame sex and the nature of this eternal connection in great detail in Twin Flame Ascension School.
You are eternally partnered with your Twin Flame. What we
mean here by eternal Twin Flame sex is that you have an eternally deepening
sexual connection with your beloved Twin Flame. Sex that gets better, and deeper
and more harmonious for eternity.
So what is sex? Sex is an empty vessel. You can put in that
vessel anything you desire. Twin Flame sex can be an expression of your primal
sensuality. It can be a pathway to God. It can be an expression of your loving
intimacy. It can be all of these things at once. So when we talk about Twin
Flame sex, we are talking about a divine partner, a perfect complement who is
best suited for you sexually, someone who completely satisfies you sexually on
Jeff and Shaleia don’t try to get something from Twin Flame
sex, because that is not how you create a real connection with your Twin Flame.
Twin Flame sex is about continually opening and giving something to your sex
You can only ever deepen this connection eternally with your
Twin Flame. With anyone else you are eventually going to hit a wall, you’ll see
what the end of the cave looks like. If you are having sex with anyone but your
Twin Flame, you will max out on your sexual pleasure at some point. But engaging
in Twin Flame sex is like exploring an endless cave, which even leads to more
and more new caves. And it’s always right for what you are looking for.
This isn’t to say that your other sexual partners were bad people.
All of your past sexual partners were just part of a path leading you to your
ultimate lover. And your ultimate lover doesn’t just come with flowers and
chocolates. Your ultimate lover means sex. Really great sex.
You build and deepen that experience with your Twin Flame
through choosing love and choosing intimacy. Bring that love and intimacy every
time you have sex. When you do that, you don’t experience really great sex that
eventually loses its passion. With your Twin Flame, sex keeps getter better and
better. The nature of the romantic intimacy between Twin Flames is discussed in-depth
in Romance Attraction eCourse.
Shaleia also learned that there is no bodily resistance to your
Twin Flame. When Shaleia was with previous partners, whenever the opportunity
for sex came up Shaleia’s body would go, “Meh. Maybe.” That was how Shaleia’s
body was trying to communicate to her that she was out of alignment with this
sexual partner. It was a sign that she was vibing out of a relationship where
she was not getting any sexual healing.
Unlike sex with anyone else, Twin Flame sex is a safe
container for you to heal sexual wounds and traumas. No matter how deep these
sexual blocks might be, they can be healed naturally when you are intimate with
your Twin Flame. Your Twin Flame is actually designed to be your perfect sexual
healer. And guess what? This healing and purifying effect is something that
builds forever, because only love is real and love never dies. This is why we say
Twin Flame sex is eternal.
Twin Flame sex is perfect. It’s perfect for you, it’s the
perfect sexual energy for you, and it’s the perfect loving you need. Your Twin
Flame loves you perfectly. There is a certain way you desire to give love and
romance, and a certain way you desire to receive love and romance, and only
your Twin Flame can fit those desires perfectly. Have we sold you yet on your
Call in your ultimate
Great Twin Flame sex is a product of deep healing as much as it is a giver of deep healing. When you subscribe to Twin Flame Ascension School you receive endless resources to aid your healing process and your work with the Mirror Exercise.
Ever wonder what it would be like for Shaleia to do a
reading for you? This reading with the Whispers of Love Oracle deck is exactly
what your Twin Flame Union needs right now, no matter when you are reading
Medicine for your
Twin Flame Union
God is loving you perfectly through this reading. The
Whispers of Love cards will address your sexual blocks, the power of presence, and
the importance of giving and receiving.
Be in the Present and
Dream of the Future.When we dream,
everything is possible. This is about being present in your Twin Flame
Union and what’s actually happening, as opposed to being ungrounded and
projecting onto your Twin Flame. That’s when you try to control the outcome of
But when you let go of control, you allow your Harmonious Twin Flame Union to come to you. The woman on this card is sitting in the corner, contemplatively looking up at the sky. She’s really looking within, and this attitude represents you. The energy right now is really perfect for being contemplative, being in your inner world and not expecting your Twin Flame to do something for you. Your Twin Flame is you, and they are mirroring all your upsets. The advantage of stepping back and going within is that you get some space to heal these upsets with the Mirror Exercise.
So be present with yourself, and be present in your relationship with the Divine. And as you grow closer in your relationship with the Divine, your Twin Flame naturally matches your vibration and meets you where you live. That will be a much better experience for you than if you went to your Twin Flame from a place of neediness. You have to unconditionally love and accept yourself, and unconditionally love and accept your Twin Flame. That’s what is going to really create an opening for them to enter your life.
Remember that your Twin Flame Union is not like any other
relationship you’ve had before. The blueprint for Twin Flame Union is so new
that you can’t really apply the dynamics of your Union to any other
relationship pattern. It doesn’t help to think, “My Twin Flame is like all the men
in my past.” He really isn’t. What’s happening is that he is bringing buried
stuff up for you to heal. It’s important to be present with these triggers.
Don’t give up on your dreams! Don’t give up on your Union, because you don’t
want to give up on yourself.
The power is in your hands. You are no weakling. You are not helpless. You are a very, very powerful being and you can make all of your dreams come true. This is something that Jeff and Shaleia’s students are constantly reminded of in Twin Flame Ascension School, as they are given support and encouragement while they heal their toughest blocks.
Express Love Through Gifts.Giving a small token to someone expresses your love to them. This card shows mermaids in mermaid heaven. The merman is presenting a beautiful pearl to the mermaid. Are you properly expressing love by giving to yourself first? You can’t give to anyone else unless you truly give to yourself.
Shaleia remembers reading in A Course in Miracles, “The highest form of love is gratitude.” Shaleia meditated on this idea a lot and she realized that the times when she felt the most loved by anyone, including her Twin Flame, was when she felt appreciated. When Shaleia is appreciated, she feels really seen and really heard. It makes her feel really loved and it gives her a sense of belonging. Being appreciated is romantic. So it’s important to think of ways you can appreciate yourself right now. That’s truly being loving, kind and compassionate to yourself and to your Twin Flame. You are truly giving to your Union when you do this.
Physical Touch Is
Important.For some of us, nothing is
more important than a tender touch. This might include a pat on the back or
giving a hug to someone who needs it. Isn’t that sweet? It can be such a
simple act, like a hug or a kiss on the hand or even eye contact. Eye contact technically
isn’t physical touch, but Shaleia finds it so intimate. Give yourself the love
that you need in order to attract your Twin Flame. Your Twin Flame is not going
to ride in on a white horse and give you all the love that you never had before.
While there is romance in your Union, it only manifests to the extent that you
have given yourself that romance.
We are all physical beings, so let’s not deny that. Yes we are multidimensional, but in the spiritual community there is often a denial of the “3D” reality. Shaleia thinks it’s an act of separation to deny the physical, 3D reality we live in. All dimensions are one and the same. As above, so below. There is no separation between dimensions, because God created this Earth, God created your body, and God created you.
What’s important right now is that you fulfill your physical
needs. Try not to demand that someone else should fulfill the physical needs
that you have. Going back to the earlier guidance about giving a gift, don’t
take that to mean that you can give your Twin Flame a gift and expect a hug or
sex in return. If you are giving gifts to someone this week, then truly give
and don’t expect anything in return – just as God does.
And yes, this also means that you are responsible for loving yourself sexually. If you feel sexual desire then you can give that to yourself. Don’t put that expectation on anyone else. Even Shaleia doesn’t put sexual pressure on her Twin Flame. When sex is in the flow, it’s totally in the flow. When you try to harvest sexual energy too early in your Union, from a place of control, nothing ever really blooms. You end up actually taking sexual energy, as opposed to giving and receiving to build the sexual romance and allowing sex to just happen when it’s meant to happen.
When you are loving yourself sexually, you can connect with your Twin Flame in your heart while you are doing this. Not sure how to do this? Jeff and Shaleia teach you how to connect with your Twin Flame from within your heart in Twin Flame Ascension School.
When it comes to receiving love through physical touch, and especially about sex, it’s really important to set boundaries with anyone who is not your Twin Flame. Shaleia knows it’s really easy to accept attention and affection from someone who is not your Twin Flame. You can lie to yourself and insist that you’re not flirting, you’re just being friendly. But in your heart of hearts, you kind of know when you’re being flirty, and this leaks your sexual energy. When you’re sharing your sexual energy with many people or doing the opposite, which is withholding your sexual energy by never being sexual at all with yourself or your Twin Flame, you’re actually creating a huge imbalance in your Twin Flame Union. We are sexual beings and sexual energy does need to be expressed appropriately in a safe container. Your Twin Flame Union is a very safe container for that sexual energy to be expressed.
When you are not leaking your sexual energy in anyway (and
withholding sexual energy from yourself is also a form of leaking), you are
creating a powerful, magnetic sexual energy field that is going to be very
attractive to your Twin Flame. You can compare sexual energy to money. Leaking
sexual energy is like going into debt. Containing sexual energy and expressing
it in your Union is like building interest. And since your sexual energy is so
beautiful and sacred, that is something that should really be saved for your
Romance. Lavish the one that you love with your personal attention and affection. So look guys, this is what you get when you stop leaking your sexual energy: romance. This is what you get! This is what happens. This card shows a couple with a powerful bond. Look at the romantic attraction between them. Do you think she is leaking her sexual energy to anyone else? No. Do you think he’s leaking his sexual energy to anyone else? No. Do you think they’re withholding sexual energy from themselves or each other? No. This is a perfect example of a balanced, sexual, romantic energy between Twin Flames. All the love they’ve been cultivating gets to remain in their safe container.
Shaleia feels exactly like this couple. This is what Jeff
and Shaleia experience in their romance, and they’re always going deeper. They
are also going deeper with and building that dance of sexual energy. Shaleia
shares her knowledge about how to attract this balanced, contained romantic
energy in her Romance
Attraction eCourse. Watching this eCourse is a powerful way to stop leaking
your sexual energy.
Shaleia remembers that with previous partners, she felt that they tried to harvest her sexual energy way too early as opposed to just allowing it to be and allowing it to build up. Shaleia would wonder, “Why can’t we just cuddle and kiss and grind a bit without sex having to happen?” Even with your Twin Flame, don’t ever have sex just because you’re pressured into it. That’s harvesting the plant too early.
This card is also encouraging you to lavish your attention
not just on your Twin Flame (if that’s appropriate), but also on yourself. If
your Twin Flame has set a boundary with you, then it’s more appropriate to give
yourself the love and attention that you need.
Claim your support
Still struggling with the
Mirror Exercise? Did the advice in this reading trigger you in some way?
You can always call in support to help you heal the wounds that these triggers
are pointing to.
At Twin Flames Universe, we offer FREE consultations
for people who are new to this teaching. These consultations are an opportunity
to get one-on-one time with an expert spiritual coach, vetted by Jeff and
Shaleia. You can also subscribe to Twin Flame Ascension School
for the ultimate spiritual guidance on your Twin Flame journey!
Did you know that healing your childhood trauma clears the way to your Twin Flame Union? The wounded inner child is a big block to Twin Flame Union, and healing your childhood is a major victory! Jeff and Shaleia are not here to discuss all the mother wounds, father wounds, and other issues that make up childhood trauma, that would be an entire seminar by itself. Instead, Jeff and Shaleia are going to simply and easily show you the way to clear your childhood trauma 100% and be free forever.
You might be wondering, “How could someone make a claim like that? Is it really possible to clear your childhood trauma 100%?” You might be skeptical because this sound rare. Most people’s parents haven’t even cleared their childhood trauma, after all. But don’t underestimate the Mirror Exercise. It is a fast technique for healing even the deepest childhood trauma. Jeff and Shaleia’s students in Twin Flame Ascension School have had huge success with this healing technique, and have found that 100% healing truly is possible.
Healing childhood trauma
with the Mirror Exercise
Here is the entire, easy 7-step process of the Mirror
Exercise! You might want to grab your pendulum as you read this. Jeff found
that being able to talk with God through a pendulum helped him find out what
his childhood trauma was, and measure how much progress he was making as he healed.
1. Get triggered. Find someone in your reality who is pissing you off. That person has to be the most annoying, most ridiculous jackass in your physical reality. That person could be your Twin Flame. They could also be a sister, a colleague, or just anyone you really despise. They have to be in your reality right now, not someone from your past who still brings up residual feelings of resentment. It has to be the one person in your reality right now who is bothering you the most. And if you insist that you’re not upset with anyone, then you’re either lying to yourself or you’re an ascended master. (Hint: you’re lying to yourself.)
the upset. Bust out your trusty notebook or notepad. You are going to write
down what it is that is pissing you off about this person. Don’t just write, “I am
upset with Rob because he is a jackass.” That is not enough. You
have to get really clear and specific about what action Rob took that made you
upset. For example: “Rob called me irritating names
and makes fun of me and spilled my coffee on my lap and I hate him and it made
me feel sad, depressed, angry, upset and hurt.” That’s a pretty good, thorough
statement about why you are upset with Rob and why Rob is a jerk. You don’t
want to fill up a page with all the reasons why Rob is a jerk. Usually someone
is going to upset you for one set of succinct reasons, which can all fit into
3. Switch the pronouns. Remember that sentence you wrote describing Rob’s actions? Now write out that whole sentence again, but switch out Rob’s name for your name, or the pronoun “I”. Turn the whole sentence around to point back at you. Now you can see that all the things Rob did to you, are actually things you did to yourself. Everyone outside of you is mirroring an aspect of you. If someone outside of you seems really irritating, they are just reflecting what you are doing to yourself or saying to yourself. When you are in your Twin Flame Union, you are going to have a lover who cares about you so much that they are willing to act as a mirror to the deepest parts of you. If someone cares about you and loves you, they don’t allow you to numb out.
4. Is it true? Now read the second statement you wrote. There’s no need to get caught up in the specificity of the actions, like whether or not you actually spilled coffee in your lap. Instead, focus on the emotional trigger behind each action. Then ask yourself, “Is there any truth to this?” Could you be doing this to yourself inside, in some completely different set of circumstances? If you search within yourself deeply enough, you will eventually hear a reluctant “yes”, no matter how much resistance comes up.
This is the step where you take a great
leap of faith inside of yourself. Ask the trigger where it is taking you, and
then let it guide you. It will lead you to an image or a memory, whatever pops
up, that is the wounded part of your childhood. Then you sit with it and
breathe. You might let it go and come back tomorrow, and that is okay. Be gentle
with yourself, because this is the hardest step in many ways. You are bridging
the gap between what the universe is communicating to you and what you are
doing inside. The universe is always reflecting your mind back to you, but it
doesn’t communicate in English or in any direct language – it communicates almost
like a dream. Let yourself learn how to communicate with the Universe and be
gentle with yourself.
5. Invite God’s help. Now it’s time to let God heal this upset part of your consciousness. Jeff likes to use a pendulum at this stage to communicate with God and ask questions about his upset. You do not need special psychic powers or lineage to communicate with God through a pendulum. God is always present, always patiently waiting for your attention. When Jeff uses a pendulum, he gets “yes” or “no” answers that act as confirmations. This helped him find the lost, hurt child within who had been figuratively spilling coffee on himself. Jeff always found that this child part of him had become disconnected out of fear. Since that experience of trauma, that part of his child self was hanging out in Fear Town, but now Jeff could heal it in an instant. The pendulum helped Jeff identify that part of himself.
6. Give yourself love. You go within and speak to that frightened part of yourself. You don’t need the pendulum anymore, only your compassionate attention. You could start by greeting your wounded child in a friendly way. And gradually, the traumatized child self will talk back. Maybe it will say, “I have a problem. This person once bullied me.” And you talk back and say, “I won’t bully you. You’re safe here, nobody is going to hurt you.” You communicate with this wounded part of yourself with love and peace. As you beam love at that hurt child, you’re inviting that part of yourself back into your heart to integrate. If this child self is resisting the love, just keep beaming love at it until the resistance dissolves. Be patient with this frightened part of your inner child. You might feel the urge to give it a hug at this point, because this is a piece of you that has been separated for a long time.
7. Integration. When this frightened child has been welcomed back into your heart, you can slowly open your eyes and rest in your new awareness. It might take a few days for this integration to be complete, but your work here is done. The last thing to remember is that old emotions will going to come up afterwards. You might experience pain or a headache or a cold. Just take loving care of yourself and take rest, because this discomfort is part of the integration. All the pain of that old trauma is coming up to the surface and clearing away. You might take a couple of days to clear this toxicity, and then you’re done forever. You’ll never experience this trauma again. When Jeff heals his trauma, he uses the pendulum again to ask God if he is completely finished with this trauma.
Childhood Trauma doesn’t
make you a victim
As you can see in the steps of the Mirror Exercise, only you
are responsible for your feelings, because only you are pissing yourself off. Rob,
this person you just wrote about? He loves you. He loves you so much that he is
willing to help you with your inner work. Don’t struggle with this awareness if
it’s too much for you right now. If you really complete this process all the
way to the end, you’ll end up feeling some serious gratitude for Rob anyway!
And Rob won’t bother you again with this issue, ever!
Rob, or your Twin Flame, or whoever is bothering you, does
not need to be involved in this healing process. Once they have triggered you,
only you are responsible for finding the wounded part of your childhood that
they are reflecting. Whenever Shaleia triggered Jeff, he did not involve her in
his healing process – she had her own traumas to deal with, and she had done her
job by triggering Jeff’s childhood trauma. Now it was up to Jeff to heal it. Every
time Jeff completely healed the part of his childhood that an external person
was reflecting, he found that he never had to deal with that person again.
Sometimes it can be hard to take this much responsibility for your pain. If it is a really big trauma, it might be hard to get through this because the pain seems so overwhelming. If you are struggling, don’t hesitate to call in the FREE support of a vetted TFU coach if that is what your inner self needs. You can also join us at Twin Flame Ascension School! Each class delivers a powerful vibrational healing, and by going deeper into Divine Love you will find your childhood trauma dissolving automatically.
So you’ve been reading this blog. You’ve been scouring the
Internet for scraps of trustworthy information about Twin Flames. You could
save yourself a lot of time and energy by receiving the spiritual guidance Jeff
and Shaleia provide at Twin Flame Ascension School, but you haven’t chosen to
become a member of the school yet.
Today you are going to learn what the students at Twin Flame Ascension School know, that you don’t know yet. And it’s big! The truth is, you haven’t truly committed to your Harmonious Twin Flame Union if you’re not a student at Twin Flame Ascension School. And if you haven’t committed to Twin Flame Ascension School, there can only be a few reasons why.
5 Signs of Resistance
Towards Twin Flame Ascension School
believe Jeff and Shaleia have Harmonious Twin Flame Union. That’s a painful
thought to hold. When Jesus resurrected himself from the dead, moved a big
stone off the tomb and came back to his disciples, most of them were very
excited. You can almost imagine them yelling, “Yay Jesus, I knew you could do
But then Thomas stands in the corner, pouting and doubting. Jesus showed him the places where his body had been nailed to the cross, and then finally Doubting Thomas believed Jesus really had come back from death. Jesus says to him, “Thomas, it must have been so hard for you to not have known all this time that I was Jesus the Christ!” The same goes for you guys. It must be painful to doubt that Jeff and Shaleia have Harmonious Twin Flame Union.
2. You believe someone else has a better offer than Jeff and Shaleia do. They don’t. Almost no one else on the planet has Harmonious Twin Flame Union. It’s extremely rare at this time! You could count the number of existing Harmonious Twin Flame Unions on one hand. If you could show Jeff and Shaleia a better offer than Twin Flame Ascension School, they would PayPal you $100 immediately.
They are willing to make a bet like that because there isn’t a better option out there. Jeff and Shaleia were the ones called to do this. If other Twin Flame teachers were genuinely called to share this work, then they would be working alongside Jeff and Shaleia towards the same end. Those who know that their life purpose is to be Twin Flame teachers followed their Divine guidance and enrolled at Twin Flame Ascension School. Many of Jeff and Shaleia’s students have gone on to become Twin Flame teachers in their own right, using the principles they learned at Twin Flame Ascension School.
3. You don’t think Twin Flames are for you. That’s a really rough thought to hold in your consciousness. You must think that love is not for you. If you don’t believe in love, what drew you to this blog? What made you research the concept of Twin Flames? Deep down, your soul knows that God loves you and created every single person with their true Twin Flame.
Once you accept that your Twin Flame is for
you, you’ll understand that Twin Flame Ascension School truly is the best way
into Harmonious Twin Flame Union. Twin Flame Ascension School gives you the
best support possible as you heal your inner blocks and traumas with the Mirror Exercise.
Twin Flame Ascension School is too expensive. Here’s a secret: God is
responsible for paying your bills. If you choose to move forward with Twin Flame Ascension School, God will provide the money. If God has shown you the
way to your Harmonious Twin Flame Union, why wouldn’t God show you how to pay
None of Jeff and Shaleia’s students complain about the cost, and it’s not because they are all super rich. Some students work very, very hard to squeeze a little bit of money together so that they can pay for the classes. Jeff and Shaleia know this and appreciate their students for investing into themselves and their Unions.
There have been times when students at Twin Flame Ascension School have struggled with how to pay the bill for classes, and this became a valuable learning experience in surrender. God would not have brought you here all this way, only to say, “Sorry, you’ve got to stop now, make some money, and come back later.” No, that’s not what a loving God would do. Every time Jeff and Shaleia help a student make a new choice and surrender, the student suddenly comes into a lot more money.
One of Jeff and Shaleia’s students suddenly
received a 5-figure sum of money, which allowed them to continue to be
supported in Twin Flame Ascension School and their Twin Flame path. Another
student was convinced he had to quit because he couldn’t afford another month
of Twin Flame Ascension School – when he made a choice to stay at the school
and surrendered how it would look like, he immediately received the money he
needed. Money suddenly showed up in a bank account that the student knew was
The moral of this story is whenever you are guided by the Divine, you are supported by the Divine. Your desire for Union with your Twin Flame will always receive Divine support: financially, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. God can always find a way to fulfill your desires, but it’s not up to you control the way God acts. Your only job is to remain open to receiving and take your guided action steps.
believe that love is real, or that love is more powerful than fear. But if
that were true, how could you exist? How could it be that the tree brings in
sunlight and grows into wood, and you can chop the wood down to build a house?
How could it be that there is enough air in every breath? There is too much
evidence of harmony in the world for love not to be the basis of all of it. For
love not to be more powerful than fear or chaos or disruption.
Only love is real. You know, at the core of your being, that this is true. You were created in love, so you always know deep down inside that love is the actual truth, not fear. Sit with this awareness in your heart. Eventually, you’re going to come to conflict and resolve it by making a new choice, and then you always end up with love. And you will know this invincible, uncontested love is the truth of your being.
If only love is real, then love never fails. Love has no competition and there is no opposition to love, that’s a lie of duality. The truth of your being is love, and your desire is calling you back to that place. The gravity of the being that you are is pulling you back into it.
If you are choosing separation, you are always fighting against your design or the gravity of your being. And all you’ve got to do is let go of control. When you release control, the gravity of your being will lead you back here, to Twin Flame Ascension School. So have trust. Have faith. Become part of a school where the students are on the same journey as you are. Be a part of a community where people are getting real, measurable results with their spiritual work. Be a part of the consciousness of Love coming to Earth.
Get a taste of Heaven
Still not convinced? Feel like you need to sample the offerings of the School before you make a decision? Jeff and Shaleia have made 3 free classes available on YouTube. These free classes are an authentic experience of the School and the vibration of Harmonious Union. You can also check out Jeff and Shaleia’s eCourses, which provide the same teachings.
You can also meet the community before you decide whether this is for you. Did you know the students at Twin Flame Ascension School also have a Facebook group? This is an extremely supportive, safe space where students not only get help from each other, but from Jeff and Shaleia as well. You’ll noticed that it’s very relieving to be around like-minded people who are on the same journey, and who share your values. You will find lifelong friends in the Twin Flame Ascension School community – perhaps even some who live in your town!
Jeff and Shaleia guarantee Harmonious Union as a result of following their teachings. The purpose of Twin Flame Ascension School is to bring you to your Harmonious Union. So come and check it out, and feel free to speak up if you have any questions. You can always get a FREE consultation with one of our vetted coaches (who are also students of the school!) before deciding if this is the right path for you.
you going through arguments in your Twin Flame Union? Maybe you and your beloved
Twin Flame are loudly yelling at each other, or maybe you two are needling each
other with passive-aggressive behavior and verbal jabs.
Every upset in your Twin Flame Union can be resolved with the Mirror Exercise. However, sometimes you also want to smoothen an argumentative situation before getting the space you need to do the Mirror Exercise on the upset.
What do Twin Flame arguments look like?
Here’s an example of what an argument between Twin Flames might look like.
One day Shaleia was running the InSinkErator to the garbage disposal for a good twenty seconds. Annoyed, Jeff said, “You know that’s a solid InSinkErator, right? You don’t need to run it for that long.” And however Jeff meant it, Shaleia took his comment to be slightly annoying. Shaleia snapped back at Jeff in a way that Jeff found equally annoying.
In a Twin Flame Union, each lover is equally capable of starting an argument. There are times when Shaleia says something that Jeff finds offensive, disrespectful or annoying, and he will throw it right back at her and annoy her in turn. Because Twin Flames are perfect mirrors for each other’s projections, these arguments can happen even if you did not mean to trigger your Twin Flame. However you meant it, your tone of voice or the words you use can be taken differently by your Twin Flame. You can learn more about projection in Jeff and Shaleia’s eCourses.
Nasty arguments don’t help a Twin Flame Union
all arguments in a Twin Flame Union are ultimately beneficial if you choose to heal
the upsets being mirrored to you, constantly snapping at each other or yelling
at each other does not improve the dynamic between you two.
Jeff and Shaleia realized that even though they did the Mirror Exercise diligently, the constant arguments between them weren’t helping their romance. Jeff said, “This is making us deal with twice as much crap in our Twin Flame Union.” Jeff and Shaleia discussed their arguments and wondered how they could at least cut the amount of arguing in half, so that they weren’t continuously reflecting crap back at each other.
Don’t be reactive
one person flings crap at another in a Twin Flame Union, it’s usually unintentional.
Your Twin Flame is weighed down by too many unconscious triggers for them to
handle in that moment, even if they are doing the Mirror Exercise.
Jeff and Shaleia came up with an idea of how to sweeten negativity in their Twin Flame Union. They realized that if one person brought awareness into the moment before getting reactive to a verbal jab, the argument could be nipped in the bud.
example, let’s say Shaleia snapped at Jeff, “Why did you run the InSinkErator for so long?” This would trigger an upset
within Jeff. If Jeff wanted to be reactive, he would throw the upset back at Shaleia
and say something like, “Because I wanted to, why are you walking around in
But that would only spiral their interaction into a nasty argument. Instead, Jeff could nip the argument in the bud by bringing awareness to the moment. Then he would say something like, “What you just said didn’t feel very good to me. Can you give your feedback to me in a way that feels more sugary and less salty?”
would give Shaleia the opportunity to say, “Oh, I didn’t realize I threw
something that felt like dirt to you,” or, “Oh, I realize I threw some dirt and
I probably shouldn’t have done that.” This way you have an opportunity to make
it right before the argument diminishes the Twin Flame Union, or sours the Twin
Flame Union just a little bit. When you give your beloved the opportunity to
sugar up their feedback, so that it doesn’t sound like criticism or a personal
attack, you bring more harmony into your Twin Flame Union.
In this example, we can see how Jeff and Shaleia went from one person throwing dirt and the other person throwing dirt back, and then both of them feeling upset, to one person throwing dirt and the other one person bringing awareness to the moment gently. Bringing awareness to the moment calms down reactivity, and opens space for better communication.
When awareness is brought gently
into an argument between Twin Flames, it is significantly better for the Twin
Flame Union. It is more relaxing to communicate like this instead of throwing
dirt back and forth all day.
arguments makes the Mirror Exercise easier
Do you want your Twin Flame Union to
give you more spiritual “homework” than you already have? Letting your
arguments spiral into unconscious reactivity creates more and more tension in
your Twin Flame Union. Those little sour, tense moments add up.
When a Twin Flame Union is riddled with snarky comments and snide remarks, you and your Twin Flame are going unconsciously hold on to more and more negativity. Even if you are aware of the need to do inner work, you might still be tempted to snap back at your Twin Flame. This is because you still think you can rid of negativity by expressing it back to your Twin Flame.
But you’re not actually providing any relief by saying something mean. You just feel a little bit relieved in the moment because you think got something off of your chest and the other person knows what a jerk she was. But if you told the other person she was a jerk to make yourself feel better in the moment, now she is going to carry that unconscious negative energy. And she is going to want to unconsciously get rid of it by throwing it back at you.
Just take a moment to find awareness
in an argument. Stop each other and say, “Listen, it didn’t feel great for me
to hear that from you. Can you communicate that to me in a different way that
feels a little bit more like sugar and a little less like salt?” In this way we
give the other person the opportunity to not throw dirt. We’re improving
communication and we’re significantly cutting back on the negative tension that
can go back and forth in a Twin Flame Union.
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