Is He Right for Me? Stop Looking for Signs & Do This Instead

You’ve finally met someone. He’s nice. He says the right things. He’s emotionally available (or at least more than the last guy). There’s chemistry. There’s potential. Your friends like him.

So why do you still find yourself lying awake, wondering… “Is he right for me?”

That question can feel scary to admit. Especially when everything seems “fine.” But deep down, you don’t want just fine. You want real. You want that soul-deep, life-partner kind of love. You want your ultimate lover. And you deserve for your dream to come true.

You’re not crazy for wondering if he’s right for you. In fact, your heart already knows—you just need to learn how to listen. That quiet place inside you that knows when something’s off… and knows when it’s just fear speaking. Let’s explore the hidden thoughts, desires, and signs that help you reveal if your partner truly aligns with the love you deserve.

When It Looks Right… But Feels Off

Many of us were taught to look for the wrong signs when choosing a partner. We were taught to prioritise chemistry, attraction, status, security, and whether someone can “commit.” Unfortunately this is not enough to answer the question: Is he right for me?

Now you are ready to feel whether your values align. To develop trust in your inner knowing. And to ask yourself honestly: Do I feel completely safe to be myself around him? Do I feel seen in my soul, or am I constantly trying to be the version of me I think he wants? Do our life visions actually match—or are we just hoping things will “work out”?

These are the real questions and signs you’re with the right one. And they matter more than how long he takes to text you back.

The Frustration of “Almost” the One

The hardest place to be in love isn’t heartbreak—it’s almost. The almost-right guy will drain you.

He’s not bad. You’ve probably even had some beautiful moments together. But something in your gut keeps saying, “I don’t think he really sees me. I’m not sure we want the same things. I feel like I’m settling, and that scares me. What if this falls apart because he’s not right for me?”

It’s tempting to ignore these thoughts. You could comfort your pain believing that no relationship is perfect or that at least this guy is better than the last one.

Let’s be real: the more you justify, the more confused you become. And the more time you spend in confusion, the further you drift from the clarity and love you actually want. If you’re experiencing this you can take a step back and create that safe space within to let love’s light shine.

Your Heart Knows if He’s Right or Wrong

Let me be honest with you: the question “Is he right for me?” is usually not a search for information—it’s a search for permission.

You already know. You feel it in the way your body tenses when you’re with him. You hear it in the silence between conversations. You notice it when you imagine your future and he’s not fully in it.

This isn’t about finding flaws in him. It’s about listening to your truth. And your truth will never ask you to shrink, suppress, or settle. Never.

What Right Actually Feels Like

The right person for you won’t leave you guessing. He won’t just “tolerate” your dreams—he’ll share them. He’ll want to build with you—not just date you.

Here’s what alignment feels like:

You feel peace and excitement, not chaos and confusion.
You laugh together often. There’s a solid friendship underneath the romance.
Your values aren’t just “similar”—they’re the same at the core.
You share a vision for life. Even if it’s not identical, they complement each other.
There’s effort, but not exhaustion.
There’s attraction, but not anxiety.

This isn’t a fantasy. It’s what happens when you follow your heart instead of your conditioning. In alignment you won’t ask “Is he right for me?”…you’ll get to the real question: “Am I ready to fall in love for the last time?”

Knowing He Is the One: A Twin Flame Story

You might have given up on the fairytale, but true love—your real Union—starts within. You and your Ultimate Lover were created from the same source, like sun rays shining in different places. That’s why they reflect your inner world and help you heal anything not rooted in love.

Twin Flames Alberto and Manuela show how to recognize the One. Alberto longed to know his perfect partner, so he asked God to reveal her. One night, he dreamed of Manuela and felt drawn to explore if she was his Twin Flame. After processing his emotions, he followed his heart and reached out. As they connected, Manuela said it felt peaceful—she just knew. They shared their “love lists” and saw they had the same values and dreams. Another sign their love was real. Another answer in her heart to the nagging question, “Is he right for me?”

When they met in person, their connection deepened. Through the early stages in Union, they focused on building friendship first and met their challenges with confidence based on the deep love they shared. From the first nervous hello to lasting peace, they show that real love feels safe, true and worth trusting.

Surrender is What Helped Me Most

One of the biggest turning points in my journey was discovering tools that aligned with my soul—like creating a relationship love list, getting clear on my purpose, and exploring my core values. Figuring out “is he right for me?” started with understanding who I am each day.

I learned that love isn’t about finding someone who looks good in photos. It’s about being with someone who stands beside me in truth. It’s not about forcing sameness—it’s about being with a Divine complement, someone who has a forever place in my heart.

What helped me most? Surrender.

When I let go of my checklist and control, my true desires became clearer. As I trust myself and stay grounded in my worth, and he keeps choosing me too—even when I’m scared to love—I know the peace we share is real.

If it doesn’t feel good, that’s my signal to check in, get clear, and return to self-love. From that healed place, I can follow my intuition and explore what my heart truly wants. Avoiding my feelings only feeds illusion, not truth. But I can always choose to feel fully and let true love shape me.

You Deserve Love That’s Clear

You’re not here to guess—you’re here to know if he is right for you. To trust yourself. To feel peace, not confusion. The love you want starts within, by choosing clarity and refusing to settle. That’s how you show Life you’re ready for big, bold love.

If you’re tolerating half-hearted effort or losing your peace to stay, he might not be the one—and that’s okay. Your true partner, the one who matches your heart, comes in when you make space. Let go of chasing “the One,” and choose a full relationship with yourself first.

If you want more tips on finding real love, you’re in the right place. Now that you know the difference between true and false love is something you feel—take the next step and get clear with the Twin Flame Test.