The Mirror Exercise is covered in depth in the book “Twin Flames: Finding your Ultimate Lover” by Jeff and Shaleia and is taught by them throughout their entire body of work. The Mirror Exercise is the most powerful spiritual tool for self-transformation. It works, every time.

The Mirror Exercise is based on the principle that our entire external reality is a reflection of our inner world. We are only ever experiencing whatever is within us. When we are upset about something outside of ourselves, the upset feeling points to a place within our consciousness that is asking to be loved. It’s our own responsibility to heal our upsets, and the Mirror Exercise allows us to do just that. It works even if used just once, although diligent application of the tool is what truly brings lasting results.

How it Works

The Mirror Exercise consists of 4 steps

  • The first step helps us to identify what is upsetting us in our external reality by projecting that upset outwardly.
  • The second step enables us to connect what we are experiencing with our inner reality and to realize that the inner state is being reflected externally.
  • The third step invites us to connect with the upset feeling and take responsibility for the upset feeling, recognizing that it is a call for love from within.
  • The fourth, and most important step is what heals the upsetting pattern permanently. We bring the upset part of us, within our consciousness, the love and support needed to feel fully loved right now.

Whatever shows up in our external reality – not only feelings related to our Twin Flame journey – can be healed completely and permanently using the Mirror Exercise.

If you’re new to this, it’s best to start out by writing down all the steps in a journal as this will help you get really clear on your feelings so that you can move through the Mirror Exercise with ease.

The Mirror Exercise takes time to master, so be patient and compassionate with yourself as you heal.

Ready to give the Mirror Exercise a go? Let’s begin.

Mirror Exercise Method – Example 1:

STEP 1: Identify the upset in a concise sentence. Who are you upset with? What are you upset about? And why?

For example: “I’m upset with my Twin Flame because I feel rejected by him/her because he/she is ignoring me.”

STEP 2: Invert all the pronouns to point to yourself. We do this because what you experience externally, is simply a reflection of an inner state.

For example: “I’m upset with myself because I feel I am rejecting myself because I am ignoring myself.”

STEP 3: Ask yourself whether this is true. The answer is: it will always be true, as you can only experience in your external reality a pattern that already exists within you.

Example answer: “Yes, it’s true. I don’t acknowledge my feelings and ignore and reject my own boundaries. I don’t feel like I am good enough to be loved so I ignore my needs and don’t nurture myself.”

STEP 4: Once you have identified the place within you that feels upset with yourself, ask that part of you, what does he/she need to feel fully loved right now?

Wait to receive the answer and then give yourself the love that this part of you asks for, right away.

Tip: You might be asked to give yourself a hug, to give yourself appreciation, acceptance, acknowledgement, reassurance, love, compassion, patience, acceptance, forgiveness, etc. whatever you feel you need. You can also use affirmations of Divine Truth to support yourself in your healing. Affirm the Truth that you are perfect, whole and complete, loved perfectly by God and your Twin Flame.

When you have done this step correctly, you will feel lighter, more peaceful and there will no longer be an emotional charge about the original upset. To help you integrate this healing, invite this part of you back into your heart to melt back into oneness with you.

If you feel there is another upset present, go back to Step 1 and repeat the process.

Mirror Exercise – Example 2:

STEP 1: “I’m upset with my mother because I feel sad and abandoned by her because she doesn’t support me or my choices.”
STEP 2: “I’m upset with myself because I feel sad and abandoned by myself because I don’t support myself or my choices.”

STEP 3: “Yes, it’s true. I doubt myself and don’t feel confident in my ability to support myself financially. I second guess myself for every choice I make and criticize myself if I make a mistake.”

STEP 4: Close your eyes and go within to meet the part of yourself that feels upset about this situation. Allow yourself to feel the feeling and ask that part of yourself what he/she needs to feel loved. Give that part of you a big hug and all the love he/she asks for. When this feels complete, to integrate the healing, invite this healed part of you into your heart to melt back into you. This should feel easy and peaceful to do.

Love Yourself in Step 4 Fully and Completely

Step 4 is such an important part of the Mirror Exercise because it’s where the healing is received within us. For this reason, we’ll cover Step 4 a bit more in depth here. Visualization is a powerful way to do Step 4, although connecting with the upset feeling is sufficient to bring healing. If you’re new to the Mirror Exercise, you can visualize the part of yourself that is experiencing the upset as a younger version of you. Imagine the adult version of you, as you are now, approaching the baby/child/teenage/young adult version of you, and take note of whether there is a specific scene, environment or memory that you are connecting with. Reassure yourself that you are safe to feel these feelings as you are now ready to bring love into this space.

Ask the younger version of you: “What do you need to feel loved right now?” You will find this part of you knows exactly what they need to feel loved. Very often, this is a hug and lots and lots of love. Give this part of you exactly what he/she asks for in your visualization. Don’t hold anything back!

As you give yourself these loving feelings and experiences within, you will find that the emotional charge of the upset dissolves and you feel lighter and more peaceful. When you feel complete in loving yourself, you can invite him/her into your heart space and have them melt into you, integrating this previously disowned, rejected or forgotten aspect of your consciousness back into oneness with you and God.

This miracle of healing works because time is an illusion, and so whenever you are triggered or upset in the present moment, it is because there is an aspect of yourself that is still hurting in the past from a prior experience/ trauma/ thought/ belief etc. This part of you has been crying out for love and attention ever since, and now, through the Mirror Exercise, you are here to finally give them what they have been needing all along.

This exercise works powerfully when you fully satisfy the needs of the part of you within that has been experiencing the upset. You will know that it works when you feel at peace. As you continue to go deeper on your healing journey, sometimes a new feeling of upset might arise soon after or during the healing process. You can simply repeat the Steps 1-4 and visualize this part of you and ask yourself what you need to feel loved there. If a feeling or pattern you thought you had already healed shows up again, just have patience with yourself and choose to feel your feelings and love yourself there again. Healing happens in layers. If you start to feel resistance or struggle to feel your feelings, affirm to yourself that you choose to feel your feelings.

Need help with this process? We highly recommend working with one of Twin Flames Universe’s Certified Ascension Coaches who will guide you expertly through your upsets and into deeper peace.

How Does It Heal My Union?

As you and your Twin Flame were created as One, you share the same consciousness and also the same blocks and patterns, although they may show up as different circumstances in your lives. When you use the Mirror Exercise to heal your blocks, your Twin Flame will automatically heal along with you, whether you are aware of this or not.

The Mirror Exercise helps you identify, and permanently heal, all your thoughts and beliefs that keep you in separation from your Twin Flame.

It is a very powerful tool indeed!

The Mirror Exercise is not meant to be used to control external circumstances and people, and definitely not your Twin Flame. Always surrender your Twin Flame journey to God! Although many have experienced shifts in their relationships with their Twin Flames directly after using the Mirror Exercise, the way that you know that it has worked is when you feel peace after working through your upsets. This tool is for healing yourself.

Be patient with yourself as you heal. It takes time to master the Mirror Exercise and we recommend journaling your feelings and healing experiences as this will help you develop an intimate, loving and secure relationship with God, yourself and your Twin Flame’s energy within yourself. And it is from this stable foundation that your Harmonious Union will manifest in your life.

Further Reading and Resources to Claim Your Twin Flame Union Now!

To understand more about having your Harmonious Union with your Twin Flame and the Ascension journey, check out Jeff and Shaleia’s Free Twin Flame Ascension Introductory Course.

If you would like some help to go deeper into the wisdom of the teachings and resources here at Twin Flames Universe, we can match you with the perfect Ascension Coach to help you with your next steps. Yes, please match me!

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