The Mirror Exercise - Healing Twin Flame Blocks Easily

What do you need to feel loved right now? This question is the key to the Mirror Exercise and to unlocking everything good in your life.

Most people are taught that life is full of limitations. This belief leads us into so many challenges when what we desire feels beyond our reach. The beautiful Divine truth is that: only love is real, and love always wins. You were created with dreams in your heart because they are meant to come true. In all the areas you feel separate from love you can steadily heal and restore love within.

The Mirror Exercise is a simple tool that will help you connect with your feelings honestly and take action to bring love and healing within. You don't need permission from anyone or for your Twin Flame to love you back together. You only need the willingness to be honest about your feelings and the courage to go within and fully love every part of you that calls for healing.

Sit back, relax, and take in the wisdom of the Mirror Exercise as you transform yourself – perhaps from powerlessness into your Divine power as a creator.

The Mirror Exercise Explained

As you move forward on your Twin Flame journey, you will hear a lot of advice and gain tremendous awareness. Wherever you are in your journey, the Mirror Exercise is what you will keep coming back to – bringing what the outside world shows you into clear focus in your heart and healing anything that feels bad and is out of alignment with love.

So, what is the Mirror Exercise exactly? This exercise is based on the principle that your entire external reality is a reflection of your inner world. This means that your thoughts and beliefs shape how you experience life.

Essentially, when you see that life is reflecting yourself to you, you become fully empowered to bring the life of your dreams into existence one layer at a time.

Have you ever been upset with someone or a circumstance and convinced it is all their fault? This common experience is the first step in the four-part Mirror Exercise where you can make the choice to go within. When an upset arises, it is pointing you towards a place within your consciousness that is asking for love.

No one has the power to take away your peace, your good feeling. No matter how wrong they are or how badly you feel, the Mirror Exercise allows you to heal yourself and feel better again. While it works even if used just once, applying this tool diligently is what brings long-term, life changing results.

How Does It Work

The Mirror Exercise consists of 4 simple steps:

STEP 1: Identify the upset in a concise sentence.

STEP 2: Invert all the pronouns to point to yourself.

STEP 3: Ask yourself whether this is true.

STEP 4: Once you have identified this place within you, ask what does this aspect of you need to feel fully loved right now?

The Mirror Exercise first invites you to be honest about how you feel, and then to take responsibility for the fact that you are feeling upset. Relationships are hard work. However, acknowledging the bad feeling within you begins the repair process to answer this call for love from within.

The Mirror Exercise does not invite you to victimize yourself or blame yourself for what someone else has done – or especially not to accept and excuse abuse. Quite the opposite, it is a powerful tool to claim your Divine Self and invite love to cleanse an area that has been stuck in trauma or separation, maybe even for lifetimes.

Why Does It Work?

The fourth step is essential because it is what heals the upsetting pattern permanently. Imagine bumping into a young child on the street who scraped and cut open their knee. Would you just acknowledge they are hurt and how awful it must feel, and then walk away? Or would you invite them gently to clean up the wound, bandage them up and offer a comforting hug?

Loving the upset part of yourself is just like this. As you bring love to yourself you receive everything you need to feel better here and now. Love comes in many forms. Ask the part of you that's healing what they need and generously give it to them. Maybe it's confidence, security, peace or a hug – simply listen and respond. Since all love comes from One Source you can be sure there is an endless amount available to you.

If you're new to this, it's best to start out by writing down all the steps in a journal. Doing so helps you get really clear on your feelings, and therefore, move through the Mirror Exercise with much ease as you master the process over time with patience.

Experience the Mirror Exercise in Action

A few general examples will help crystallize this tool for you. You can use this exercise to heal anything in your life – so any bad feeling is now up for grabs to heal. If you're searching for more information on this and the Twin Flame journey, you can check out the book Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover by Jeff and Shaleia Divine.

STEP 1: Identify the upset in a concise sentence.

Who are you upset with? What are you upset about? And why?

For example:

"I'm upset with my Twin Flame because he/she rejected me and is ignoring me."

STEP 2: Invert all the pronouns to point to yourself.

We do this because what you experience externally, is simply a reflection of an inner state.

For example:

"I'm upset with myself because I rejected myself and I am ignoring myself."

STEP 3: Ask yourself whether this is true. The answer is: yes.

Since you are feeling this upset, it's safe to assume it is true. This step invites the hurt part of you to connect with you, feeling seen and safe especially where you are vulnerable.

Example answer:

"Yes, it's true. I don't acknowledge my feelings and I ignore and reject my own boundaries. I don't feel like I am good enough to be loved so I ignore my needs and don't nurture myself."

STEP 4: Once you have identified this place within you, ask what does he/she need to feel fully loved right now?

Give yourself space to receive the answer from within. Once you know it, give yourself the love that this part of you is asking for. Remain with this part of you until you feel it received everything he/she needed.

Example answer:

"I need to know I'm fully worthy of my needs being met. I need love and compassion here where I've abandoned this part of me. I need Divine Love to show me how to keep my boundaries and love myself."

At the end of step four when you feel completely loved, invite this aspect of you to join you in your heart. You will likely feel a warm sensation often described as "melting into you" as the loving energy merges into your heart center.

Example 2

Here is another example to help you better understand the Mirror Exercise.

STEP 1: "I'm upset with my mother because I feel abandoned by her and she doesn't support me or my choices."

STEP 2: "I'm upset with myself because I abandoned myself and I don't support myself or my choices."

STEP 3: "Is it true? Yes, it's true. I doubt myself and always second guess every choice I make, criticising myself if I make a mistake."

STEP 4: "What do I need to feel fully loved here?" Close your eyes and go within…

Example response:

"I need a hug and to forgive myself for being hard on myself. I need safety to feel that I can express myself. And I need a loving voice to reassure me I am Divine and worthy of my love."

Meet the part of yourself that feels upset about this situation. Allow yourself to feel the feeling completely.

You can use visualization to help you; how is that part of yourself looking? What is she wearing? How old is she? Whatever comes up is okay. There is no judgment in healing.

Ask that part of yourself what he/she needs to feel loved. Give yourself space to answer and express their needs. Then give that part of you a big hug and all the love he/she asks for.

Be very patient with yourself and do not hold back on the love you give.

When this feels complete, invite this healed part of you into your heart until it melts back into you. Doing this step should always feel light and easy.

Tips to Master the Mirror Exercise

In Step 4, this part of you may ask you to give yourself a variety of things:

a hug,
appreciation,
acceptance,
acknowledgement,
reassurance,
love,
compassion,
patience,
forgiveness, etc.

It can be anything, so long as it is loving towards you. You can also use affirmations of Divine Truth to support yourself in your healing. Affirmations are very powerful for realigning our mind towards unconditional love.

Some affirmations to help you integrate the loving truth are: "I am are always perfect, whole and complete." "God and my Twin Flame are always loving me perfectly."

When you do this step completely you will feel lighter and more peaceful at your core. There will no longer be an emotional charge regarding the original upset that triggered you. To integrate this last step fully, simply invite this part of you back into your heart. Allow it to melt back into you, remaining present with yourself until this step feels complete.

Congratulations! You have now completed all 4 steps of the Mirror Exercise successfully. If you feel there is another upset coming up, you can always go back to Step 1 and repeat the process.

The Power of The Mirror Exercise

This tool is indeed very powerful, because the miracle of healing works every single time. When you feel upset it is because an aspect of you from the past is still hurting, or it is time to uproot an unloving pattern as you make the choice to love. This part of you has been crying out for love and attention – and the latest upset is an invitation to go within to restore yourself with love.

Don't worry, healing happens in layers, so having patience with yourself and your process is key. If you start to feel resistance, or struggle to feel your feelings, or get frustrated when a similar upset arises…make the choice again to feel your feelings. Have compassion with yourself as you navigate this phase of your process.

Upheaval: After the Mirror Exercise

When you use the Mirror Exercise to love yourself, you will experience a profound shift in your reality. Life will feel clearer, easier, more wonderful and joyful.

Oftentimes though, you will experience an upheaval, or a purging of the old unloving energy. Upheaval is the process by which everything that is out of alignment with love leaves your consciousness. Think of it as a release valve that lets out all the steam and soot and stuckness you no longer need.

You may need a lot of rest and comfort during this time. Many people when in upheaval like to take a nap, curl up on the couch and watch a movie, or just hang out and rest. (For more on this, check out the upheaval support guide).

It's important to be compassionate during this time. All those bad feelings you released with the Mirror Exercise may feel intense and real as they leave you. The fact that you're feeling them means they are unstuck and on their way out. Often you'll find that there is no specific upset to feel during upheaval, and this is how you know to relax and let the waves of emotion pass. Soon you will feel the new level of love you brought to yourself and slowly but surely you'll notice things shift in what life reflects back to you…now, more love.

How Does the Mirror Exercise Heal My Twin Flame Union?

As you and your Twin Flame were created as One, you share the same consciousness – like a plot of land you tend and garden together. Therefore, you also share the same blocks and patterns, although they may show up as different circumstances in your lives. When you heal with the Mirror Exercise, your Twin Flame will automatically heal along with you, whether you are aware of this or not.

Your Twin Flame is always mirroring back to you the state of your shared one consciousness. When you are thriving, loving yourself, and enjoying your life purpose work, you experience that joy back to you through your Twin Flame. When you are struggling to love yourself or heal your upsets, your Twin Flame also reflects this back to you.

You have more power than you think

You are in the driver's seat when it comes to how you feel and what you heal. Sometimes the simple awareness that there is an upset is all you can handle. But the next day you may be a little more ready to go within to connect and bring love to yourself.

Over time with self-care practice, the Mirror Exercise becomes a way of life. You'll no longer be satisfied to stuff your feelings down and numb out. As you experience the miracles of healing with this tool, you will come to know the true extent of your power to create a perfect life for you and your Ultimate Lover.

The great news is that a community of dedicated students are walking this path together. Support is a key aspect of healing where you can tangibly feel that you are not alone in restoring yourself to union within. When you are ready for more results and peace on this journey, take some time to explore the variety of Twin Flame Ascension Coaches ready to guide you into harmony. It's never necessary to walk up the mountain alone when you have skilled support here for you.

Do you feel ready to take the next step into your Twin Flame journey? The Twin Flame test will help you see just how ready you are for true love.