Avoid Unnecessary Separation: Build Trust In Your Relationships

Do you feel like building trust in relationships is like learning to walk on the moon? Maybe you’ve been through such deep betrayals and disappointments in relationships that you’re too worn out or scared to try again. You may be thinking, “The isolated life is lonely, but at least it doesn’t hurt as much!” Hang in there, friend. There really is another way to live. Building trust in relationships can be a beautiful process. Here’s what years of practice has revealed along the way.

From Betrayal to Union: My Story

I grew up in a family with divorce, addiction, money, and all kinds of trust issues. I lost faith in my parents pretty young, and best friends had an uncanny pattern of moving out of town after a while. By the time I came into dating life, I didn’t think true love was real. I had lots of short relationships or dated unavailable people who regularly abandoned me in one way or another.

When I found the Twin Flame journey, I was sad and ready for some other way. I started the healing process, taking classes and working with a coach, and slowly but surely my relationship with myself started improving. I began to experience love with the Universe. I built enough trust in my relationship with the healing process, that I faced some of my deepest traumas. Suddenly I didn’t feel so lonely or abandoned all the time. I felt more “me,” and my world felt more loving and gentle.

I healed through all the core issues around two false Twin Flames with the help of my amazing coaches, too. Just when I was feeling good in my skin, at peace with my life, and had let go of needing to know my Twin Flame physically, a certain someone called me out of the blue. That someone turned out to be my real Twin Flame. By the time we started dating, I had a whole new tool kit for building trust in relationships. Two years later, we are married and have a beautiful daughter. We aren’t an anomaly. You can have trusting, solid Union with your beloved, too.

How Do You Build Trust in Relationships?

For the longest time, I thought I just had to find a fabulous person who would stay with me, and all my trust issues in relationships would be fixed. Turns out that building trust in relationships begins within me. I learned something radical:

Your outer reality is a reflection of your inner reality.

So if I don’t trust myself and am regularly abandoning my true self, all of my outer relationships will reflect the same dynamic. Maybe I criticize myself constantly or ignore my deepest feelings and desires. I end up attracting critical bosses and partners who belittle me. If I can pinpoint the pattern here and heal it, though, the opposite dynamic can soon be true!

Imagine fully trusting your deep self and committing to yourself internally. How might that get reflected in your outer world?

Key Tools For Building Trust In Relationships

You can imagine how much different your relationships can be coming from a place of inner trust. A key tool for building that inner trust is using the Mirror Exercise. It helps you face the blocks to trust and love within you and transforms any traumas into peace.

Another key tool for building trust in your relationships is to build your trust with the Universe, or Love itself. Diving deeply into spiritual waters can be the most juicy and trust-filled relationship you will ever have. In fact, building trust within this relationship will naturally build trust in relationship with yourself and everyone else because in deep truth, you are not separate from Love!

Something to also keep in mind is that building trust is a process. You can use the analogy of climbing a ladder– you might give one rung of trust to a relationship. If that one rung goes well, you might trust by climbing up two rungs on the ladder with that person. If it doesn’t go well, you might go back one rung and start again. However you see it, be gentle with yourself. Rome wasn’t built in one day.

True love needs boundaries too

One last tool– setting boundaries. Learning to set boundaries within yourself on ego’s games is a game changer. Setting them with loved ones and partners is also a key element to building trust in relationships. No one has to accept abuse or unacceptable behavior. Setting a loving boundary returns everyone involved to appropriate alignment where trust can grow.

Support For Building Trust in Relationships

There is no shame in not knowing how to build trust in relationships. If you haven’t experienced relationship trust before, it’s difficult to know how to cultivate it. I discovered there are incredible resources to support in the trust-building process. There are even trained coaches who can guide you through each emotional block and give you in-depth guidance for using the Mirror Exercise. However you go about the process, know that you are not alone. Support is always available, and you don’t have to continue in a never-ending cycle of broken relationships.

Ready to explore further? Take the Twin Flame Test to see if you’re ready for the Twin Flame journey of trust in relationship.