So you’ve gotten fed up with the usual dating scene and finally started your Twin Flame journey. Congratulations! It’s an incredibly rewarding path of healing and love. 

Now you’re wondering who the heck is your Twin Flame? There’s a person you are kind of drawn to, but you just don’t know. And how do you make that initial meeting to start to explore the connection?

It’s super common to have no clue. Relax, you can’t mess it up with your true Twin. Exploring and “getting it wrong” are all part of the process. Being your authentic self is what attracts your Twin to you most, and we’ve gathered these ten questions to help you out on that initial conversation.

1. What is one of your favorite things to do?

You may want to start out broad and light. What are they into? What lights them up? Twin Flames share core values and a life purpose together. Starting with- what does this person like to do in their free time?- gives you clues about what passions and values might also align with yours. 

Super important to note though: their favorite things don’t have to be your exact favorite things! You are not cookie-cutters of each other! But if it’s your Twin, their favorites will complement your faves.

2. What’s your family like?

This question can open up all sorts of things. Are they close to their family? Healing from family trauma? Do they value family and want to start one of their own? Do you? 

Getting clear from the beginning on what you both desire as far as a family life can really help to discern whether your values and future goals are the same. Twin Flames will always value the same things at the core here, though they may have different ideas about how it will manifest.

3. What do you do when you’re having a hard time?

This question involves some observation over time because they may not have an answer for it or may have an answer that doesn’t match what they actually do. However, asking this one can open doors about the spiritual path, healing, and ascension journey. Do they go to therapy? Do they go to 12 Step meetings or use the Mirror Exercise? Do they work out at the gym or talk to loved ones? Or do they numb out with addictions or overworking?

Your Twin doesn’t have to know about the Twin Flame journey, be especially spiritual, or have the same coping mechanisms (healthy or not) that you do. But as hard things come up, it’s good to know how both of you handle them. When you do your healing, do they come naturally closer or further away from you? Coming closer is a good Twin Flame sign.

4. What are your favorite books or movies?

This is a light, fun question that is another clue as to their core values. Again, they don’t have to like the same things as you, but do all of their favorite books and movies have a common theme? What ideals and values do they point to? This question can also be an invitation to have a movie date night for the movies you haven’t seen!

5. What did you want to be when you grew up?

I love asking this as it gives a window into their inner kiddo, their dreams and desires, and again, their values. Notice a theme here? You and your Twin will have the same core values and desire the same things in life, though it may look a bit different on the outside. It will always be complementary, though.

6. Do you have any pets?

They might be a dog person, and you might be a cat person, but at the core– do you both value animals or nature?

7. How do you feel about God?

Twin Flames are ultimately designed to be perfect partners and teachers to each other on this very question. Testing it out at the beginning can be a great place to start, as ultimately, the relationship you have with your Twin is the same relationship you have with God, or Love Itself. Practicing a certain religion or even being atheist doesn’t necessarily matter, either. You might believe in God and go to church while your Twin might just appreciate the Divine in people and nature. 

8. What do you feel like your mission in life is?

Twin Flames share a life purpose together. You and your potential person may not be totally clear on this subject yet, but it certainly starts the conversation. Do you both have things you desire to do in life that complement each other? It’s an excellent sign if you do.

9. What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone? And for yourself?

How they treat themselves is ultimately how they will treat you. (And how you treat yourself is how they will treat you!) Twin Flames mirror each other’s insides perfectly, so this can give you all kinds of clues on how to romance them and yourself. As you romance yourself, your Twin will romance you!

10. What would you like your life to look like in the next 5 years?

Last question for real clarity. What do they value? What are their desires in life? Be prepared to answer this yourself, too. If you don’t find the same desires and core values with this person, they probably aren’t your Twin.

It’s an unfolding process to know who your true Twin Flame is, but asking these questions is a great start. If they are your true Twin, they’ll also want to know your answers just as much as you want to know theirs!

To see if you’re ready for this journey, take our Twin Flames Test.

Written by C.F.

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