What is a Twin Flame? You’ve probably heard the myths, the drama, and the confusion—but what’s the real answer?
This blog takes you beyond the noise and into the truth. You’ll learn what a Twin Flame really is, how to know if you’ve met yours, and what to do if you’re stuck in separation. Plus, there’s a surprise at the end that most people overlook! Keep reading—because the key to your Twin Flame Union is here.
Why do You Want to Know What is a Twin Flame?
Have you felt the sting of longing in your heart for your Ultimate Lover? The feeling of being without Love is heartbreaking.
Thankfully, there is a solution to that pain and also to your perfect love story.
A long time ago, there was a version of me that didn’t know what Love knew. I didn’t yet know that Love was the most powerful feeling in the world. Not only something that can be felt within, Love is something that is shared and spread and invited and cultivated and related to.
Love is the energy of life. And because we are all made by the Creator of Love – we have an all access pass to experience the life of our dreams.
How do I know? This mystery of life was shared with me the same way it’s being shared with you now. Keep reading.
Meaningless Myths
Many people Google “what is a Twin Flame” hoping for clarity—but the truth is deeper than a definition. You’re in the right place now to hear the truth of Twin Flames.
Have you been struggling in your love life?
Maybe you’ve thought “Twin Flames aren’t real, and if they are, I don’t have one.” This is a myth. The first myth of many that you will bust through as you take the next step toward the loving truth. The truth is that you were created by Love and so you are Love itself. The expression of love on earth exists most profoundly in the bond between lovers. With this in mind, you were created with a perfect partner. Someone who understands you in ways that will surprise you. Who commits to loving you through the ups and downs with dedication. The person who you come home to in your heart, at the end of a long day or the beginning of a beautiful morning. Your Twin Flame is your best friend.
You were made as one
And because you were made as one – you are in truth One Union right now.
Feel into energy you put into exploring myths about Twin Flames or sorting through advice and wondering if you are doing something wrong. Imagine this energy pouring into your heart. Does it feel good? Warm, gentle, light and strong. This is where you can go to know the truth of Twin Flames…directly into your heart. It feels much better to pour energy into ourselves than to chase answers outside of us.
And that is exactly what I learned on my Twin Flame journey.
What This Means for You
You don’t have to spend another minute wondering if Twin Flames are real (spoiler alert: they are). Instead of stressing over “Do I even have a Twin Flame?”, try this: close your eyes, take a deep breath, and feel into the truth. Your heart already knows.
- Next Step: Want more myth-busting? Check out why the DM actually ignores the DF.
My Twin Flame Journey: The Moment Everything Changed
I started my exploration of Twin Flames around 2018. I had met someone the year previously and had an intense and almost cosmic connection to this person. Through layers of fears and doubts and questions, we bonded in a way that I felt I had known forever. He seemed like the person I longed for my whole life. After a passionate and whirlwind year together, the high started to wear off and I found myself stuck.
Emotionally I struggled to communicate, I wrote notes for conversations with this person, I second guessed my feelings and avoided dealing with it. After a while, the problems between us had built up so much we separated.
Surprisingly, considering how much I loved him and longed for him, our break up was the first time I could breathe deeply again.
I stopped chasing…
The first time I had acknowledged fully the severe disconnection I had with myself as I chased this love outside of me.
From there – that place of heart wrenching pain – that I allowed myself to hear the truth. “If this man is my Twin Flame, then I have to accept that I am choosing separation in some way.” With the help of the Mirror Exercise and a community of people practicing radical self-love, I was able to move from a feeling of despair to empowerment. Slowly as I spent time with myself in my heart, pouring love into all of the crevices that hadn’t yet known its healing power, I found myself growing stronger and more able to actually move toward a Union that felt good.
I started to accept that I could release myself from separation by inviting Love in fully. I learned through experience and everything I heard in Twin Flames Ascension School that each layer of separation and pain that I heal through self-love is bringing me closer to a true knowing of my Twin Flame. My best friend. My teacher. My partner. My Ultimate Lover.
What This Means for You
So, you’re on the Twin Flame journey… but where do you start? You don’t have to have all the answers today. The first step is choosing to love yourself—fully, deeply, and without fear. Your Twin Flame journey starts with you.
- Overall lesson: Self-love leads to Union, but it goes deeper than meditation and affirmations.
Twin Flame Doubts and What to Do
The difference between being in a relationship with drama and being in separation with drama is this: when you’re alone, it’s much easier to see your own patterns.
The key isn’t to:
- Blame yourself for what’s happening
- Berate yourself for your emotions
- Compromise your self-worth
- Run from your feelings
Instead, the key is to:
- Stay present with the bad feeling, instead of pushing it away
- Bring it gently home to Love in your heart
- Allow yourself to process and heal without judgment
When you do this regularly, you will naturally build:
- Strength to face the challenges in your journey
- Courage to move through your fears
- Discernment to see the truth of your Union
The beauty of taking your time in physical separation seriously is that you can see the gift available to you to heal everything you know is holding you back from being and receiving love. The time will come, however, when the most compassionate choice is Union.
The pace and how quickly or slowly you get there is entirely up to you. It takes a gentle approach to bring yourself through your caves of fear – to truly explore a intimacy with yourself and another – and to discern through actions if they are your true Twin Flame. If you find yourself constantly questioning if the other person is for you, take the time to connect with the part of you that doesn’t feel it’s for you. Bring love here and see what transpires with your Twin Flame.
You cannot lose your true Love.
It’s not possible because you are connected at a soul level. You’re not going to forget your Twin Flame at the mall or miss them on the train to work. They are magnetized to you as you choose consistently to bring Love into your heart. If you feel like you’re in a one-sided relationship with someone and they are not growing with you as you heal and make new choices, you are completely safe to move away from that person to focus on yourself.
What This Means for You
You might be uncertain because your Twin Flame is hot and cold with you. Your Twin Flame journey isn’t about never feeling lost—it’s about learning how to trust yourself even when the outside isn’t reflecting your progress.
Love Doesn’t Feel Bad
If you don’t believe me – you can take me for example. After over a year in separation from the man I told you about earlier, we started shifting. We both went through greater spiritual awakenings. I had accepted the fate that he may not be my Ultimate Lover – and leaned into the knowing that with God I was already one with Love. Slowly and not always easily, we healed to the point of reunion.
He invited me in, first as a friend then a partner and eventually a lover. We went through our ups and downs, learned to face the intensity of our feelings with self-love and communication.
Now, it’s been over four years since we found our way back together.
We’ve embraced the daily work of loving each other and ourselves. We disappoint each other and surprise each other. We’re growing every day and accepting ourselves more and more. In fact, we are in the process now to select our first (new to us both) apartment together.
What You Dan Do for Your Union, and for Yourself
To me, the most important thing to remember as you take your next step into Union is: how does your heart feel?
If your heart feels good and is growing and strengthening against the fears that tempt your faith, then you are headed in the right direction. Love doesn’t feel bad. If it does, it’s not Love. And you have the power to bring all the Love you need to heal what feels bad. Whether that’s getting into Union, attracting new opportunities or filling your cup with your heart’s desires. It is safe to give yourself all the love you need. There is no need to suffer through separation without the healing balm of self love. You are worth it and you have all of the support at your finger tips to move toward your Union.
True love feels good. But just because someone feels bad or triggered you does’t mean there is no love deeper. Are you ready to overcome the upsets and have a beautiful love story? If you’re serious about it, take our Twin Flame Test today.
Written by Angelika Lee
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