The Twin Flame path is unique for everyone. But each person that decides to take this journey will have to move through specific stages, as stated in Jeff and Shaleia’s book Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover.
These stages are different from what one would expect. It is not about a honeymoon phase, then a separation, or even runner-chaser dynamics. This is all about healing in order to have a real, physical relationship with your Twin Flame.
Your Twin Flame is your perfect mirror, they are your perfect lover showing you all your qualities. They also shape you by mirroring back and amplifying all the upsets within your heart.
Your soul, being a part of Source, wishes for these upsets to be healed. Letting go of these patterns of separation is what your soul was asking for all along. At the core of your Divine consciousness there is only Love. As you let go of your ego and purify your consciousness through the Mirror Exercise, you can’t help but reach Harmonious Twin Flame Union.
It starts with a desire


In the beginning, you can sense a certain desire in your heart. It is a longing for a perfect friend, partner, lover and supporter in your life. This desire can be dormant and subconscious. But as you wish for that perfect someone, while you look up at the stars and dream of your deepest desires, know that the process has already started. This is a call from your heart of hearts.
From that moment on, you might experience your spiritual awakening. And it looks different for everyone. You may meet the person that will be revealed as your Twin Flame right away, or your soul may naturally desire more clarity about the Ascension path, leading you to Twin Flames Universe. The Stages of Union can happen before, as well as after having met your Twin Flame in the physical. Either way, your desire naturally led you here. This is the Law of Attraction.
In the beginning, you can sense a certain desire in your heart. It is a longing for a perfect friend, partner, lover and supporter in your life. This desire can be dormant and subconscious. But as you wish for that perfect someone, while you look up at the stars and dream of your deepest desires, know that the process has already started. This is a call from your heart of hearts.
From that moment on, you might experience your spiritual awakening. And it looks different for everyone. You may meet the person that will be revealed as your Twin Flame right away, or your soul may naturally desire more clarity about the Ascension path, leading you to Twin Flames Universe. The Stages of Union can happen before, as well as after having met your Twin Flame in the physical. Either way, your desire naturally led you here. This is the Law of Attraction.
The following stages of Twin Flame Union were channeled from the Divine by Jeff and Shaleia. They don’t always happen in order, as each Union will have a unique journey. It is possible that two stages happen at the same time, depending on what you are moving through at the moment.
The Stages Of Harmonious Twin Flame Union
1. The Decision
The power of your decision cannot be emphasized enough! Making the decision in your heart to be with your Ultimate Lover communicates a strong energy to the Universe. From that moment, you have your Twin Flame Union on the inside. As Jeff and Shaleia say in the book: ”If you have a desire in your heart for a relationship that transcends the love that we have been taught as a culture, to a love that is created in Heaven, you have a Twin Flame.”
The following stages of Twin Flame Union were channeled from the Divine by Jeff and Shaleia. They don’t always happen in order, as each Union will have a unique journey. It is possible that two stages happen at the same time, depending on what you are moving through at the moment.
The Stages Of Harmonious Twin Flame Union
1. The Decision
The power of your decision cannot be emphasized enough! Making the decision in your heart to be with your Ultimate Lover communicates a strong energy to the Universe. From that moment, you have your Twin Flame Union on the inside. As Jeff and Shaleia say in the book: ”If you have a desire in your heart for a relationship that transcends the love that we have been taught as a culture, to a love that is created in Heaven, you have a Twin Flame.”
In Divine truth, your soul wishes for deep peace and unity, and it naturally brings you closer to the Divine. God is your Ultimate Lover. God’s Love is reflected to you through your Twin Flame, through what you feel and what you experience in your life. In making the decision, you take the most important step, the one that inevitably changes your life for the better.
And since your Twin is you at the core of your being, they will also desire you, their Twin Flame.
All subsequent achievements, or roadblocks, derive from this very first step! The decision is the first step towards aligning with your Twin Flame Union. Everything that is not yet aligned with it will show up in your awareness, and so, the inner work is an integral part of this stage. Each challenge is a lesson, and moving through the lesson brings you closer to meeting your Twin Flame. The Mirror Exercise will help you through each of your upsets and bring you into alignment until you manifest your Twin Flame in your physical reality.
In Divine truth, your soul wishes for deep peace and unity, and it naturally brings you closer to the Divine. God is your Ultimate Lover. God’s Love is reflected to you through your Twin Flame, through what you feel and what you experience in your life. In making the decision, you take the most important step, the one that inevitably changes your life for the better.
And since your Twin is you at the core of your being, they will also desire you, their Twin Flame.
All subsequent achievements, or roadblocks, derive from this very first step! The decision is the first step towards aligning with your Twin Flame Union. Everything that is not yet aligned with it will show up in your awareness, and so, the inner work is an integral part of this stage. Each challenge is a lesson, and moving through the lesson brings you closer to meeting your Twin Flame. The Mirror Exercise will help you through each of your upsets and bring you into alignment until you manifest your Twin Flame in your physical reality.
2. Meeting your Twin Flame




2. Meeting your Twin Flame
You reap what you sow! So, when you are in alignment with meeting and being with your Twin Flame, you will move to that receiving phase. You’ll get to know each other in this deeply unique and intimate process. You are meeting your own self in the most complete way and it takes time for both of you to adapt to this new emotional energy. Getting to know each other usually lasts several months, up to a few years.
You might meet your Twin Flame and you might be friends first. They can also be a co-worker. Spiritually, your Twin Flame is first your perfect teacher and student, your best friend, your perfect partner and lastly your lover. They are your Ultimate Lover. Some Twin Flames may start out by dating first. Whatever the way, it is always perfect for you and your Union. Twin Flames are an Ascension Path, it is only natural that they teach you first, bringing you deeper into your spiritual process.
You reap what you sow! So, when you are in alignment with meeting and being with your Twin Flame, you will move to that receiving phase. You’ll get to know each other in this deeply unique and intimate process. You are meeting your own self in the most complete way and it takes time for both of you to adapt to this new emotional energy. Getting to know each other usually lasts several months, up to a few years.
You might meet your Twin Flame and you might be friends first. They can also be a co-worker. Spiritually, your Twin Flame is first your perfect teacher and student, your best friend, your perfect partner and lastly your lover. They are your Ultimate Lover. Some Twin Flames may start out by dating first. Whatever the way, it is always perfect for you and your Union. Twin Flames are an Ascension Path, it is only natural that they teach you first, bringing you deeper into your spiritual process.
3. The Upset Stage
Your Twin Flame, being your perfect mirror, will bring up all of your upsets to work through. Because of the very nature of a Twin Flame relationship (an Ascension path for you) they will show you all the places of your consciousness that are not aligned with love. This stage requires persistence; your Twin Flame will shine a light on your shadows, your false beliefs about yourself, your false beliefs about Love. But they will do this in the most loving way, because they do love you. And the Creator loves you too! That is why He created you as One with your mirror soul.
3. The Upset Stage
Your Twin Flame, being your perfect mirror, will bring up all of your upsets to work through. Because of the very nature of a Twin Flame relationship (an Ascension path for you) they will show you all the places of your consciousness that are not aligned with love. This stage requires persistence; your Twin Flame will shine a light on your shadows, your false beliefs about yourself, your false beliefs about Love. But they will do this in the most loving way, because they do love you. And the Creator loves you too! That is why He created you as One with your mirror soul.

Stay the course! The journey sometimes seems demanding, but it is mostly a process of unlearning. We unlearn, for instance, feelings of not being good enough, or false and unhealthy expectations. We unlearn separation consciousness, lack mentality, and we learn to face our fears and conquer them. These subconscious belief systems we learned over the years are present in our minds, even though we do not recognize them at first glance. Being with our Twin Flame is our Divine opportunity to heal all the suffering we may carry. And as we heal, the peace we feel will be reflected in our relationship with our Twin Flame and the rest of the Universe.
Reaching this peaceful core is worth it! There are numerous benefits in healing all of your upsets. For example, you might let go of being hard on yourself, release or transform unhealthy relationships. They will either fall away or change for the better.
You and your Twin are two wings of an eagle, learning to fly synchronously. The journey guides you back to that Divine and harmonious state, because you were created Divinely.
4. Unconditional Love
Stay the course! The journey sometimes seems demanding, but it is mostly a process of unlearning. We unlearn, for instance, feelings of not being good enough, or false and unhealthy expectations. We unlearn separation consciousness, lack mentality, and we learn to face our fears and conquer them. These subconscious belief systems we learned over the years are present in our minds, even though we do not recognize them at first glance. Being with our Twin Flame is our Divine opportunity to heal all the suffering we may carry. And as we heal, the peace we feel will be reflected in our relationship with our Twin Flame and the rest of the Universe.
Reaching this peaceful core is worth it! There are numerous benefits in healing all of your upsets. For example, you might let go of being hard on yourself, release or transform unhealthy relationships. They will either fall away or change for the better.
You and your Twin are two wings of an eagle, learning to fly synchronously. The journey guides you back to that Divine and harmonious state, because you were created Divinely.
4. Unconditional Love

In the fourth stage of your Harmonious Twin Flame Union, you reach a vibration of Union with your Source on the inside. This feeling of bliss and peace is the ever-growing result of your work on this path. Every Mirror Exercise, every upset healed brings you deeper into that stage.
In the process, you realize unconditional love was always present between you and your Twin Flame. This deep feeling of peace within your rejoicing heart is the core connection between God and you. This state of unconditional love is cultivated and nourished with every step forward in your healing. This is the ingredient that attracts and maintains your Twin Flame Union forever: this state of love you are giving to yourself is perfectly mirrored back through your Twin.
In other words, by sticking to your healing work, you will experience God’s Love through your Twin Flame. In perfection. For eternity.
In the fourth stage of your Harmonious Twin Flame Union, you reach a vibration of Union with your Source on the inside. This feeling of bliss and peace is the ever-growing result of your work on this path. Every Mirror Exercise, every upset healed brings you deeper into that stage.
In the process, you realize unconditional love was always present between you and your Twin Flame. This deep feeling of peace within your rejoicing heart is the core connection between God and you. This state of unconditional love is cultivated and nourished with every step forward in your healing. This is the ingredient that attracts and maintains your Twin Flame Union forever: this state of love you are giving to yourself is perfectly mirrored back through your Twin.
In other words, by sticking to your healing work, you will experience God’s Love through your Twin Flame. In perfection. For eternity.
Transcending the way you thought love would be
A lot of Hollywood movies convey the subtle knowing that true love is real. Those stories are based on the desire to have a Twin Flame. And you know you have a Twin Flame because you have a desire for your Ultimate Lover. That is how Creation works.
The challenges and roadblocks in these movies are just the same as the upsets you experience on your Twin Flame journey. The approach is slightly different: you start to see the outside world as a mirror of your inner world, and it helps you heal those blocks within yourself first.

The Mirror Exercise, as taught by Jeff and Shaleia, is the fastest way to achieve everlasting Union with your Twin Flame. All healing gradually brings you back into the healthy state you were born in: perfectly in love with the One Creator and your Twin Flame.
You do not need to go on this path alone. You can take this journey with like-minded people that understand you. Your friends can support you in moving through a core upset more easily.
And having an Ascension Coach who guides you and holds space for you while you reach a painful core wound, is of great value. There is no need to shy away from genuine support. You were never meant to heal all of this by yourself. By receiving support, you’ll have an easier time mastering all the Twin Flame stages.
Further Reading and Resources to Claim Your Twin Flame Union Now!
To discover more about how to move through the Ascension process to attract and maintain your Union permanently, check out Jeff and Shaleia’s Free Twin Flame Ascension Introductory Course.
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