Before you get married, discuss bills, parenting styles, credit, debt, religion, how to deal with family, what beliefs will be instilled in your children, childhood traumas, sexual expectations, partner expectations, financial expectations, family health history, mental health history, bucket list, dream home, careers and education, political views […].
– Anne Hathaway
We love this quote, because it starts to talk about a very simple method that not many people apply fully. It’s a method that helps identify if your life partner is the one, and it always works. We call it the Love List.
Your Twin Flame – the perfect match to your core values
“What is a Twin Flame,” you ask? We believe a Twin Flame to be that ideal partner that matches up on the points that Anne Hathaway mentioned (and more). While most of us are in search of “the one” when dating, we rarely find that person that seems to be made just for us. Your Twin Flame is that person. While sometimes we think having similar experiences in life, religious beliefs or interests is the way to determine if we love each other, the right relationship actually goes deeper than that.
The ideal partner is that person that shares your core values and your vision of life, even when they seem to be from another culture or to be very different. But more than that, they’re the person that matches the internal qualities you’d like to find in a partner. It’s not about the color of their eyes or hair but about what they believe in and what they have always valued.
Subconsciously, you are always searching for someone who will understand you completely. And a person who shares all of your values and vision for life is just that. That’s because Twin Flames share one consciousness. The ideal partner is someone you can have romance and friendship with, someone who can be your adviser and your business partner if need be.
3 steps to create your Love List
Think about what you would like your partner to be like or do for you. Again, no physical traits but how they behave from their core beliefs. Read what our community members had to say about unique things that nobody but their Twin Flame did for them:
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He gave me his valuable advice and made me realize that I had limited belief patterns. He was the 1st person who ever asked me what my goals were.
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Opens the car door, pulls my seat out, lets me walk into a place first…. True gentleman.
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Whenever he’s in my car he will get out and pump the gas and clean my windshield… just because.
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Writing poetry for me
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They respect and value me like no other.
In this day and age, it is pretty dreamy to have your partner do that. And for these Unions, it is their daily life! So take a pen and paper, and let’s set out with the intention to have the same kind of relationship.
What qualities should your perfect partner have?
This list should contain the non-negotiable qualities that your partner should have to be in a romantic relationship with you. No more disrespectful or disappointing interactions if you are certain about what you’re looking for.
For example, is your partner someone who values sports, healthcare, the arts? Do you enjoy having a natural leader, someone who is more about team work? Are they open-minded, caring? Anything that you enjoy doing in a relationship, or even that you enjoy about yourself and others, you can write here.
Maybe you like people that are very attentive and observant. Maybe you like people who enjoy nature. Maybe they’re child-like and joyous, or very mature and serious.
Think about all the things you liked or disliked from previous relationships and/or friendships and use it to fill your Love List with qualities that make sense to you.
Identify your core values
In all of the qualities and traits you have written, there must be ones that are more important than others. If these are missing, it is a massive red flag for you. These are called core values. Your Twin Flame must have the exact same one than you. These values are the closest to the essence of the person before you, they help you understand what this relationship is all about and it will be focused on.
And no, religions are not core values. They’re a system of belief, those can change. Instead of looking at the dogma, try to look at what the person enjoys or is looking for. Most of the time, it is love, understanding, community, tolerance. People are often stumped by the fact that one Twin Flame believes in Christ, and the other in islam; when actually, both just value community and love very deeply.
Isn’t it beautiful to know that you have a person whom you can go deep with? Deeper than all the appearances, deeper than concepts that look taboo at first? Here are a few examples of core values here:
- an essential relationship trait (such as honesty, communication, respect) that is more important than all the qualities.
- the question of having kids or not. Be very thorough when you talk about it. Sometimes, people are still unsure about this and realize later that they actually didn’t share the same vision here.
- lifestyles (country or city life, eco-conscious living if that is important for you, incorporating certain cultures and habits in your lifestyle).
This should be very helpful in recognizing your Twin Flame, because a false one will not share 100% of your core values. You can be as precise as you’d like with it, knowing that the perfect person will always meet you where you are.
Describe the life you desire to have together
You probably have a very clear vision of how your life will unfold and the way you will live. Well, your Twin Flame, even if they don’t have the exact same vision for the future, will share complementary goals.
Traveling the world instead of being in one place? Check.
Or teaching your children about a certain lifestyle? Check.
Developing a business together and increasing your wealth vibration? Check.
Spend some time thinking about what life looks like in your perfect home. You will be able to attain these dreams faster and build that life for your Twin Flame to join you in.
Are you ready to fall in love for the last time?
The Love List and your core values can show you a lot of things about yourself and your romantic partner. You can notice how you’ve enjoyed certain relationships more, and why. You can learn about yourself.
You can even start to understand if you are ready for Twin Flame Union or not. If you want to be absolutely certain of that, take our Twin Flame Test today and begin your journey to Harmonious Twin Flame Union.
Written by Yoreen Marcin
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