I believe a man’s place is with his family, not outside of it. I believe a man’s relationship with his children is more than going to work to pay the bills. A man’s place is close to his wife and children and his job is to love, support, and be present with them. After feeling so heavily battered by the healthcare system, I wasn’t going to let Shaleia go through this alone.
On our first meeting with the midwife I sat quietly and listened while Shaleia interviewed her. She was gently exploring whether this person was the right fit. I looked the midwife in the eyes and asked her if she was going to be a positive advocate for Shaleia and support her. It wasn’t a casual moment, time stopped for it.
She expressed her commitment to supporting Shaleia through her pregnancy and into birth and after. She knew Shaleia’s story. I believed her when she said she would be there for Shaleia. She has been every step of the way. We manifested a person who understood what we desired and supported it every step of the way.
Shaleia has been loved and supported the whole time, perfectly.