No one loves heartbreak. Finding out that the person we thought we loved is not for us is one of the harder things we face as humans. It can lead to all kinds of spiraling feelings. Hang in there, though. Your person (your Twin Flame) does exist. Each relationship is just leading you closer to them. So grab a hanky and check out our 10 ways to get over heartbreak.
1. Be Gentle With Yourself
Change is just Love Itself expanding. Even difficult change. Can you give yourself plenty of compassion for what might feel like the end of the world as you know it? (There’s also a saying– “rejection is God’s protection.” If you’re going through that, know that you are not alone.) What would a loving best friend do for you in this situation? Do that.
2. Feel All The Feelings
Let yourself feel everything and anything you need to feel. The more you feel the feelings fully, the quicker they will pass. The Mirror Exercise is an excellent tool for this, as is working with an Ascension Coach.
3. Recognize A “Failure” Is A Success
Every relationship is here to teach us lessons and guide us closer to our true desires and authentic self. If you love a person and a relationship fully, then it has no choice but to either reveal itself as a real relationship based on love or reveal itself as not based on love. Do you really want to stay in a relationship not based on love? Either way, you have done your part and found valuable information about the relationship. So your “failure” is actually your success.
4. Take Responsibility for Your Part
It can be super tempting to blame them for everything that went wrong. You may need safe time and space to do that for a bit. But eventually, in order to transcend that type of relationship entirely, you’ll need to assess your part. Again, the Mirror Exercise is an excellent tool for this. Working with an Ascension Coach is super helpful, too.
5. Note What You Do and Don’t Want Next Time
Sometimes we learn the deepest lessons in life through contrast. We may not know what our heart’s desires are yet, but we could probably name quite a few things we would rather not experience again. In your ideal relationship, do you want someone who has the same values you do? Or would you rather repeat things like incompatibility and disrespect? Take stock of what you liked and didn’t like about this relationship.
6. Go Through a Ritual
One way to give compassionate space for the experience of heartache is to create a simple ritual around it. Light candles, thank the person for the lessons they gave you, and then symbolically let them go. This could be with writing, with physically letting go of something they gave you, or a meditation of release. Use your creativity, but make sure it’s loving for both parties.
7. Romance Yourself
How you treat yourself is how your reality (and ultimately your Twin Flame) will treat you. Can you give yourself the love and romance you desire? It can be tempting to think that the end of your relationship means the end of romance, but in truth, you always have the power to give yourself that love.
8. Plug the Energy Leaks
When you’re truly ready to move on, instead of looking at your ex’s social media or driving by their house, it may be time to shift the mindset. Erasing them from the phone, the Instagram, and your physical space clears up your heart and mind to let your energy flow. It may feel uncomfortable at first to shut off the energy you gave them, but when you choose to let go at the core, you’ll find a new freedom. You’ll also prep the space for your true desires to have room in your life.
9. Be Compassionate to Yourself in Upheaval
When you make new choices at the core to uplevel your life, what is out of alignment with those new choices needs to come up and out of your system. This is a process of upheaval that can feel very tender and emotional. Give yourself the same care and compassion as if you were getting over the flu.
10. Make a Love List
So you’ve felt feelings, taken stock, romanced yourself, and are giving yourself lots of compassion in the waves of upheaval that come from getting over heartbreak. The last tip is to make a new Love List. The love list is a list of values and desires you would like in a relationship. The clearer you are, the easier to recognize these values in someone else. (Hint: Your true Twin Flame will always match your love list.)
Find the Love List and all our free resources at the end of our Twin Flame Test.
Written by C. F.
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