So you were friend-zoned by your Twin Flame. Is this really possible? Can Twin Flames just be friends and ignore the intense attraction and eternal romance between them? Jeff and Shaleia see this misconception flying around a lot in the wider Twin Flame community.
The truth is that there is no such thing
as a Twin Flame friend-zone.
Jeff knows he could never just be friends with Shaleia, and he doesn’t know how anyone could just be friends with their Twin Flame. You share the same Soul Blueprint and you have an eternal connection with your Twin Flame! That is not a recipe for the friend-zone.
Don’t worry, friendship is not the final stage on your Twin Flame journey. Read on to find out how friendship fits into the context of your Twin Flame Union, and why you can expect your Twin Flame to be your Ultimate Lover, not just a friend.
The Only Exception
There is only one case where this great, Eternal Love can be non-romantic, and this happens when there is a multiple Flame set. Most people on the planet, about 99%, only have one Twin Flame, and that is their Ultimate Lover and partner. There is a rare exception when “Twin” Flames can come in a set of three or more. Jeff, Shaleia, and their third Twin Flame Grace are an example of this. Grace is Jeff and Shaleia’s daughter.
There is a natural friendship that Shaleia experiences in both of her Unions, but the Union with Jeff is romantic while the Union with Grace is not. Multiple Flame sets can be larger than three, and in these Unions it is appropriate for some of the Twin Flames to be just friends. However, these are the very rare exceptions. You, dear reader, are unlikely to be one of these exceptions, so you don’t have to worry.
For most people, you have one Twin Flame, and that person is your lover. You can never be in a Twin Flame friend-zone with this person because friendship could never encompass all that your Union was designed to be.
Friendship is an aspect of a Twin Flame Union, not the entirety of it. Friendships are limited to just hanging out and doing friend stuff, and that’s it. Can you only do that in a Twin Flame Union and have the Union be complete? Absolutely not, because you and your Twin Flame are designed by God as lovers.
That means you two are designed as intimate, romantic complements and you two are designed to have sex. Not “friends with benefits” sex, but “I want to romance you forever” sex. In fact, having sex with anyone who is not your Twin Flame is essentially having sex with a brother or sister.
Through your Divine design, unless you fall under one of the rare exceptions mentioned above, your Twin Flame is your Ultimate Lover, not just your friend. So if you think things are not working out between you two and that you’re definitely just going to be friends with this person, you’re either with the wrong person (someone who is not your Twin Flame) or you’re not perceiving the relationship accurately.
Friendship is a building block of Harmonious Twin Flame Union, not the only destination.
There’s one caveat: your relationship with your Ultimate Lover needs to be built on friendship first.
Your Twin Flame is first your teacher and your friend, and then your partner, and then your Ultimate Lover. This is the hierarchy that you follow when developing your Union with your Twin Flame (though this doesn’t mean you have to “take it slow” by any means. It’s very normal and natural for things to move quickly within your Twin Flame relationship because you are One and time is an illusion.
When you are ready, you are ready. This hierarchy is a more accurate representation of the stages of your Twin Flame journey than the popular “runner/chaser dynamic” model, which is a complete myth. Jeff and Shaleia did not go through a “runner/chaser” phase and you don’t have to, either! They did, however, experience a period of separation because of the thoughts and beliefs they were harboring at the time. When they finally met, they were friends first before they became lovers.
How do you get out of separation?
During her search for her Ultimate Lover, Shaleia went to many psychics and did many card readings, and to her dismay she got the same answer every time: that she did not have a Twin Flame. This made Shaleia really sad and she thought she would have to resign herself to a soulmate relationship. But, that psychic information came through only because Shaleia was holding thoughts of separation in her consciousness, and these thoughts were out of alignment with her Twin Flame Union.
Refusing to settle for less, Shaleia worked with her spiritual teacher to clear those thoughts that were out of alignment with her Good, and the spiritual tool Shaleia and her teacher used was the Mirror Exercise. In no time at all, she manifested her false Twin Flame, which was an important learning experience for her.
Eventually, the Mirror Exercise helped Shaleia manifest her true Twin Flame, Jeff. They established an immediate friendship, which deepened into a lasting, romantic Harmonious Union as Jeff and Shaleia continued to do their spiritual work. You can learn more about the Mirror Exercise and all about Twin Flames in the book Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover.
Remember, if you are experiencing mixed feelings about your Ultimate Lover and want to put them in the Twin Flame friend-zone, it just means you are holding thoughts that are out of alignment with your Union. When you resolve these outdated beliefs using the Mirror Exercise, you will effortlessly vibrate to the frequency of your Union and magnetize it into your reality.
Cory and Topanga from the show Boy Meets World.
Get Yourself Out of the Twin Flame Friend-Zone
If you are experiencing being friend-zoned by your Twin Flame, don’t worry, you just have some blocks to clear! Your Union is inevitable. To help you move through your blocks and barriers to love it is helpful to work with a Twin Flames Universe Certified Ascension Coach as they will guide you expertly through your fears into a state of peace.
There are many resources available to help you with your next step on your Twin Flame journey. The best place to start is with Jeff and Shaleia’s Free Twin Flame Ascension Introductory Course which will lay the foundation for your journey.
Stepping out of the friend-zone can be easy, why not check out our e-Course Twin Flames: Romance Attraction to increase the romance in your life. And, if you’re ready to fully commit to your Harmonious Union, Twin Flame Ascension School brings you everything you need to “fast track” your healing. Watch the recorded classes, heal along with the students and experience them moving out of the friend-zone with their Twin Flames right before your eyes! This is for you too!
You are not alone, and you are loved!
Further Reading and Resources to Claim Your Twin Flame Union Now!
Adapted from the video “CAN TWIN FLAMES JUST BE FRIENDS?” by Jeff and Shaleia.